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The cost of charisma

According to author Olivia Fox Cabane, “All forms of charisma come at a cost; what the cost is depends on the charisma style you choose.” Charisma–that characteristic charm that allows the speaker to inspire others into action–comes from the Greek … Continue reading

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Emotional control

The more emotionally intelligent one is the more ability one has to perceive, understand, and manage emotions. Not just one’s own, but other people’s also. Those who possess this kind of intelligence are more able to manipulate others, but their influence … Continue reading

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EQ versus IQ

Emotional intelligence is touted as the necessary skill to get ahead in the business world. Tech savvy, logical reasoning and high IQ are not enough. These traits/skills cannot propel you to the places you can get if you understand emotions, … Continue reading

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Kind and harsh

Two research studies on the nature or empathy have caught my attention recently. One has found a genetic basis for empathy or at least the appearance of being kind and friendly. In this experience people watched the interaction of couples … Continue reading

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Empathetic words

The use of pronouns and other functional words may provide a clue about our social status, our tendency to tell the truth, or how well we perform in academics. However in many circles today the desired characteristic is “emotional intelligence.” … Continue reading

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Wise words

How does our speech reveal our level of intelligence? A person employing word with more syllables may seem more intelligent, but may not be. People practiced in business presentation learn to use vague multi-syllabic words to sound as if they … Continue reading

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The “I”s do not have it.

People assume that others who often talk about themselves are egotistical.  But, if you really want to find out how people view their own status,  pay attention to pronouns that they use. There is a reason that kings, queens and various … Continue reading

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Easily deceived

Our eyes may deceive us. Two witnesses of the same event rarely, relate tell the same story. On a smaller scale, we often misread words. If two words have a similar spelling, we may read the one that we think … Continue reading

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Failing to allow failure

At the beginning of my son’s senior year we went on a mad rush of college visits trying to find the most elite school offering a computer science degree where he would actually have a shot at getting accepted. MIT … Continue reading

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Did you actually read what you thought you read?

The first few years my daughter was in grade school, she would sit at the table in the breakfast nook and do homework while I prepared dinner. One evening while I stirred cracker crumbs into a meatloaf mix, she sat … Continue reading

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