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Next generation of charisma

One of the buzz words used to promote teaching managers charismatic behavior is transformational leadership. It is touted as the next generation improvement on the old standby, transactional leadership. Transactional leadership is based on providing extrinsic motivators. In other words … Continue reading →

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Charisma’s black eye

Research on charisma which shows that people who exhibit emotional expressiveness are rated the highest in charisma by others. People can be taught this very skill, and improve it by spending time delivering speeches in front of the mirror, watching … Continue reading →

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Charisma and Emotions

Emotional expressiveness seems to be the major component of charisma. When other people can reflect our emotions, or show reactions to events that match our own, we are more likely to trust them.  In order to reflect another person’s emotions … Continue reading →

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Teaching Charisma

Charisma can be learned. This is not a new revelation. For millennia people have been teaching others the how to speak in a persuasive manner. In fact if you look up the definition of “rhetoric” you will find it was … Continue reading →

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What is a soft skill?

There is no precise definition of the components of emotional intelligence. However they are often similar to what has been previously referred to as “soft skills.” Recently list of the top soft skills desired for managers included resolving conflicts, negotiating, correcting people, … Continue reading →

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How friendly are you?

There is fascination that I have with psychometric tests. It seems like the creators of these assessments have faced the impossible tasks of trying to capture complex aspects of personality with a series of phrases and sentences on which subjects … Continue reading →

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The cost of charisma

According to author Olivia Fox Cabane, “All forms of charisma come at a cost; what the cost is depends on the charisma style you choose.” Charisma–that characteristic charm that allows the speaker to inspire others into action–comes from the Greek … Continue reading →

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Emotional control

The more emotionally intelligent one is the more ability one has to perceive, understand, and manage emotions. Not just one’s own, but other people’s also. Those who possess this kind of intelligence are more able to manipulate others, but their influence … Continue reading →

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EQ versus IQ

Emotional intelligence is touted as the necessary skill to get ahead in the business world. Tech savvy, logical reasoning and high IQ are not enough. These traits/skills cannot propel you to the places you can get if you understand emotions, … Continue reading →

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Kind and harsh

Two research studies on the nature or empathy have caught my attention recently. One has found a genetic basis for empathy or at least the appearance of being kind and friendly. In this experience people watched the interaction of couples … Continue reading →

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